Narcissists don’t take the bad with the good.
They only want the best parts of anything or anyone.
A woman I knew left her leftover Chinese food in the refrigerator and her boyfriend took the meat and left the vegetables for her.
They want the paycheck without doing the work.
This is also seen in a Narcissistic Family that scapegoats.
The Narcissists that make up the family get the scapegoats share of money, love, respect, and help.
They also get the scapegoats compliments while the insults that belong to the Narcissists get hurled onto the scapegoat.
The family is enmeshed with almost non-existent boundaries and diffuse roles which can actually be quite disturbing and disgusting.
One becomes the other or is the other.
All of the Narcissists are simply wonderful and live good lives and the Scapegoat suffers and is all bad.
There is varying degrees of this depending on the severity of the Narcissism in the family.
Scapegoats take the punishment that the Narcissist deserves and in the worst possible cases the scapegoat is sacrificed if not figuratively, then literally.
In short Narcissists are spoiled and aggressive. Dishonest and delusional. In denial as well.
The scapegoat needs a good and highly skilled therapist and social worker too in many cases to escape when the time is right to go on to live the best life of them all.
The scapegoat needs money and a few good friends and also a firm belief in themselves.
They scapegoat can go on to live a meaningful and healthy life with rewarding relationships that is real and rightfully earned.
Rise Above Refuge By Ruby 