Safety Is An Illusion Rant

I arrived at this conclusion to find out that the quote already existed.

If I could have a do-over in life, I would have read the wise quotes first.

What a time saver.

When a person has survived so much that few if anyone would believe the person.

It’s often a waste of time to ask for help or support because many people will take the abusers side for their own selfish needs.

So that they can then feel better.

You lived it, and, they can’t handle hearing about it.

They say it didn’t happen to you.

That could really trigger you.

Don’t let it.

They say that so then they don’t have to worry about it happening to them.

You were tortured possibly, maybe you escaped death.

You may not even have been seeking support.

Maybe you want to better educate them.

Maybe you wanted to warn society.

Your life was almost sacrificed, but, in talking about it you are sacrificing your own life.

Your story might scare a psychiatrist and then you are locked up because that is the quickest way that they can absolve their own fear.

Or, it could even be as simple as you spoiling their good mood.

I did watch an Investigation Discovery episode where a woman couldn’t save her own life.

The police didn’t listen.

She moved across the country.

The guy ended up killing her and then himself with the either the police or swat team outside the door.

We can have the illusion that we have kept ourselves safe because of measures we took.

I say we can increase our odds and that certain factors also increase our odds, but, it isn’t always the case.

The more vulnerable you are, the less safe it is to talk.

Unfortunately these are the people who probably know those powerful truths.

And then who would believe them?

A friend told me the other day that they can’t seem to get a consult with a lawyer.

It’s not that the person can’t afford it.

She made a somewhat costly decision that was partly based on getting a lawyer’s consult.

Now she realizes that she made have wasted her money.

Take nothing for granted.

Once you are dead, they might believe you.

And even if they do, they may not admit it.

Thoughts On What BPD Really Is

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We could be here all day arguing this point.

Narcissists point the finger at Borderlines.

Borderlines blame the Narcissists.

The person who reacts to the disrespect of another will be called the Borderline.

A Borderline can be blamed when they are innocent because they are being projected into.

Out of the two people in the relationship, the one who loves the other more will end up being the Borderline.

They are at the disadvantage.

In fact a Borderline can be a Narcissist in their next relationship if their partner loves them more or is in any way dependent on them.

Narcissist Brother

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Have hope for your brother.

It’s not all his fault that he is a Narcissist.

Does he copy you in life?

It might be a compliment.

Narcissists are insecure, meaning they feel inadequate deep down, despite their puffed up outer appearance.

If he name drops(high status people), or reminds you that he eats Sushi and orders Merlot when he is dining out, it’s his way of saying, “I am better than you.”

Don’t take it personally.

It hurts less when you don’t.

Be a little sad for him in fact.

He was meant to be so much more than that.

Sometimes A Person Is More Powerful Alone

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Recently saying to myself, Anything that relaxes me and empowers me is what I need most.

I can count on myself.

Living frugally and only associating with the few who strengthen you.

I finally realized this one day out of the blue.

You don’t ‘need’ the Narcissist.

The fact is that they need you.

Run far away as fast as you can.

If you are still with them, make a secret escape plan.

It often takes money to leave or having a really good friend to temporarily live with.

Truth(even though it may not be pretty), is always better than keeping your head in the sand.